I don't consider myself a relationship expert, but one topic that continually comes up with personality research is the topic of compatibility. I was in a long-term relationship with an ISTJ male. He was fastidious, clean, orderly, and extremely direct. I had never dated a man before that didn't beat. From your experience, what sort of relationship are these two types compatible for? What would the best way to develop it be?.
Then, in the next email you write her, you could write the body in English as you normally would but then write the "talk to you later" part in French, German, or Italian, etc. Small things like that are what grabs the female ISTJ's attention and really shows that you care. It's not about the big romantic gestures with ISTJ females, it's about the "little" things: Ah, out of curiosity, how exactly do you go about trying to bring out someone else's N?
I love my S, but I wouldn't be opposed to improving my N.
I'll be sure to start making note of things like that. Why would an INTJ being hurt by thier own feelings cause conflict though? As far as developing N. I try to encourage looking at things in as many ways as possible, and making note of intuitive qualities.
Rather than be focused on one thing for what it is, unfocus a bit and leave your mind to abstract and freely interpret various possibilities. If the thought of that scares you, just know that inventors and artists do the same thing, and that unfocusing and letting your brain make the connections for you isn't necessarily the same as being insane or mentally retarded. I guess if you set your mind to it, and try to get a sense over what your brain is doing, whilst updating your mental database to contain intuitive information, it should come naturally.
Preferebly with the first-person point of view. I guess that wasn't a very exact explination. Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so. Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.
Thinking-Thinking Joys Both parties enjoy the straightforward and frank communication styles; no emotional issues is brought into discussion and decision making.
As such, both find it easy to communicate with each other; they won't have to try to cushion their message or filter it; but can afford to be direct without being afraid of offending the other party. In decision-making, both parties use a logical, objective analysis to access pros and cons.
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This same mode of decision-making will mean that they are less likely to come into conflict. Struggles While both are logical with one another, sometimes some romance and affection can liven up the relationship; both parties may have issues showing it.
Because both use a logical and objective process in decision-making, they may have a blind spot in considering their personal values. Under stress, they may have an issue controlling their own emotions; sometimes this can lead to highly intense fights that are destructive.
Judging-Judging Joys Because both value organization, they are likely to have a neat and tidy household with clear rules and standards, something which both parties will prefer.
They are likely also to plan their schedules with each other, with little or no issue with unnecessary last minute changes.
They will also appreciate their partner's ability to keep up with the demands of everyday living and stay on top. They will likely be strong together with budgeting, there will be little or no issues with planning out finances together. Struggles Even though both parties may have standards in the household, they may have very different standards. Because both tend to be opinionated, their arguments and quarrels may be more intense.
Both may refuse to budge on their standards and compromise.
Both parties like to settle things; this means that sometimes they may make premature decisions without sufficiently considering their alternative options. However, personality dynamics are more complex than this.