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Moreover, rules about how men and women should dress and behave are constantly changing, further evincing that these constructs are subjective. It was once considered "unladylike" for "real women" belonging to certain classes and racial groups to do "manly" things, such as work outside the home and wear pants. Some sources report that Vogue magazine did not feature a woman in pants until Today, women are working outside of the home and continuing to make progress towards securing jobs traditionally held by men.
The power-pantsuit wearing senators and CEOs of today are not thought of as trying to "be like boys" because society has expanded its definition of what it means to be a woman.
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There is a common misconception that all self-identified women, regardless of sexual orientation, who fall on the androgynous or masculine side of the gender spectrum present the way that they do in an attempt to "be men. There are androgynous and masculine presenting women, such as model Elliot Sailorswho identify as straight.
However, the reality is that none of the women I have dated have ever wanted to be a man, nor did I ever want them to be men.
They were just being true to themselves and recognize that there is more than just one way of being a woman, similar to the trailblazers who dared to pave the way for us to become attorneys and wear slacks in the face of being told that these behaviors were reserved for boys.
When I asked butch-identified Nuyorican writer, poet and filmmaker Gabrielle Rivera to comment on her experiences with people assuming that she wants to "be a man" because of the way she dressesshe stated: Never for one second while wearing men's clothing or any other type of clothing, do I feel like I want to be a man. There is nothing about becoming a heterosexual man that is in any way appealing to me. I wear 'men's clothing' because I like the aesthetic.
I feel sexier in a button-down and a bow-tie than I ever have in a dress. I am drawn to men's clothing because it allows me to be in control of how my body and person are perceived. You are solely responsible for cooking, cleaning and all the domestic responsibilities.
I blame both masculine-identified women and femmes for this. And yes, I am an equal-opportunity blamer, since there is enough to go around. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spoiling and treating a woman well, but her money is as good as yours.
Call me Sunshine Anderson, because I've heard it all before: Your date will think you're broke, you will appear cheap, she will not look at you like a "real" stud if you ask her to pay, it is only right to let the stud pay for dinner, etc. Is her perception of you more important than who you really are? More importantly, lest we not forget, we are two women on a date.
Don't just dress aggressively: Get a backbone and ask her to pay.
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It is not your responsibility to pay simply because you are more masculine. Femmes, I blame you too! Wipe the dust off that purse and offer sometimes. If someone is regularly paying for you, how about offering to at least leave a tip? Or if your date paid the first time, then pay this time. The concept sounds shitty, but it's how our brains work.
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